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Overcoming Fears of Rejection to Date Girls – Is Being Too Short a Hurdle?

May 3, 2009

Too short to date girls? Do you have this problem too? Being short as a guy can especially pose a disadvantage when we are talking about approaching the opposite sex to either strike a conversation or for a greater ambition to date a girl you fancy. Remember that cute girl that you met in a public place just standing steps in front of you? She looks so much like the girl you wanted to talk to, and to befriend. One minute later, you tell yourself that it’s not possible for you to go up and say ‘hi’ as you are shorter than the girl in front. You subject yourself to the common belief that girls only fancy guys who are taller than them.

As a short guy myself, I can understand the inferior complex and thinking that comes with the package. I would like to offer some encouragement and tips to guys out there who are short in stature and feel inferior and have problems in overcoming fears of rejection when push comes to shove in knowing the opposite sex.

Tips to share:

1. Believe in yourself! Everyone is special and you definitely have your strong points. Speak confidently and dress well. Most of the time girls like guys who are confident of themselves. This does not entirely have to do with the guy’s physical appearance. Physical appearance takes those initial points but after even some minutes of chat, it is the personality rating that comes through. If you can speak confidently then you will fare well. Dressing well does not mean you need to wear a tie or a tux. Even a t-shirt and a pair of jeans can make you look good if you iron them well and pick the correct cutting.

2. Read about jokes and humor in jokes-a-day websites to break the ice with the opposite sex. Most girls like guys who are humorous.

3. Believe in yourself! I know I have mentioned about this in point 1 but it deserves mention again because it is just so important to have self-belief! Strong self-belief will make you look bigger in stature than what your physical self is.

4. Use your heart when you’re interested in the girl and make the effort to know her. This again has nothing to do with your short height. It also brings up the point that being short is not the only factor that will determine if you can be successful in getting the opposite sex interested in you. Using your heart is about showing whole-heartedly that you’re genuinely interested to know her and befriend her.

5. Get motivated by reading up on useful resources which encourages positive thinking. There’s a lot of these resources on Amazon.com

I am not an expert in courting girls but I have been through the process of getting nervous, letting opportunities past by me because I lack confidence and self-esteem to make that first move to know the girl I fancy.

You can do better! Good luck dear friend!

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Find of the Week

March 2, 2009

As posted on vivaciouslychataigne.com as the fashion find of the week Vivaciously Chataigne writes:

Ever want your man to be taller than you in heels? Well, I uncovered the secret to his new stature with the unique insoles called LiftKits.

This new vivacious find was founded by three Hollywood guys on the mission to grant average men a step up. LiftKits give men the ability to naturally and comfortably increase their height up to 2 inches. It’s been proven that taller men are more successful. Now little men can use lifts for heading out on a Saturday night to pick up the ladies or stand taller at an important job interview.

I discovered this new sensation at the LRGCreative Recreation Gifting Suite at Sundance 2009 and LiftKits proved one of the more popular booths. Becoming quick favorites with actors like Tom Cruise to celebrity DJ’s such as DJ Irie. LiftKits are quickly becoming a celebrity must-have. I hope they sent a pair to infamously cute, but vertically challenged Kevin Connolly.

You may think that these are a cheat for little guys to hit on you, but face it woman have push up bras, SPANX, fake eyelashes and hair. Everyone cheats a bit and height doesn’t matter when you lying down…

LiftKits uses Shopit for Social Selling

February 25, 2009

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David Beckham To Buy Apartment In Tallest Building

January 7, 2009

The couple and their three children are currently in the city as part of David`s tour with Italian soccer club AC Milan.

Author:
Bangshowbiz

Published: January 05, 2009 17:37h

David Beckham is set to buy a £5 million apartment in the world’s tallest building. The soccer star – who is married to former Spice Girl Victoria – has apparently been approached by developers about an Armani designed property in the luxury Burj Dubai tower, which when completed will be approximately 820 metre high.

The couple and their three children are currently in the city as part of David’s tour with Italian soccer club AC Milan, who he is on loan to while his regular side Los Angeles Galaxy are in their off-season.

A source close to the Nakheel Group, which owns the complex, told Britain’s Daily Star newspaper: “Beckham and the Burj Dubai would be the perfect fit. This is the finest building in the world, he is the finest soccer player. I believe he is being sounded out.”

The building will be ready for occupation in September. Top Italian fashion house Armani – who David models underwear for – are set to kit out some of the 200-metre-square flats with luxury furnishings to the owner’s specifications.

David – who along with his team mates is being protected by a security team worth an estimated £3 million – already owns a villa in the exclusive Palm resort in the city.

Meanwhile, Victoria has been spotted walking around a luxury Dubai golf course in bare feet.

A source said: “Victoria didn’t look too happy and she obviously decided comfort was more important than style.”

More Hollywood Heights: Short Men of Comedy

January 2, 2009

More Hollywood Heights: Short Men of Comedy
October 10, 2008 by
Will N. Stape

Funny Guys Aren’t Always Tall Guys
These are the clowns who make us roll over with belly laughs. They fire off one liners and spin silly stories faster than you can catch your breath. Funny men inspire us to be merry and mirthful. But many are pretty short.

Here are some of the best comics working in Hollywood today and some of the shortest.

Artie Lange – 5’9

At 5’9, Artie Lange misses average height by an inch.

The MAD-TV alum and Howard Stern regular has been yucking it up for years. A native of New Jersey, he’s had troubles in the past with drugs and booze and continues to “live large” as the new Dean Martin of Hollywood in ways. Recently broken up with his girlfriend Dana, Artie now is starting to love the single life and take advantage of it on Stern’s daily yuck fest on Sirius Satellite Radio.

Carlos Mencia – 5’8″

At 5’8, The Mind of Mencia is a short mind after all.

The half German half Latino comic born in Honduras is seventeenth in his family of eighteen siblings. At 5’8, he’s two inches shorter than average height, but that doesn’t mean he’s short on the laughs. Although he’s been criticized for joke stealing from big comics such as Joe Rogan and George Lopez, Mencia continues to do well on his Comedy Central show and is co-starring in the new Ben Stiller movie The Heartbreak Kid.

John Leguizamo 5’8

This native of Bogota Columbia stands 5’8, but he’s become one of the funniest and most versatile actors in film and television today.

Praised for his stand-up and one man shows, Leguizamo has been in such modern classics as Moulin Rouge and provided the voice for animated characters like in Ice Age. Leguizamo has such a unique, hyper sense of inspired silliness, it doesn’t matter how tall he is – he always delivers huge laughs.

Bobby Lee – 5’4 1/2″

At 5’4 1/2″ Asian comic Bobby Lee won’t be playing basketball with the LA Lakers anytime soon, but his comic timing doesn’t need height.

Livin’ Large

December 30, 2008

In the Maxim Magazine article, Crack open a tallboy and let the celebration begin for the 25 biggest short dudes of all time Maxim salutes a slew of shorties. In our opinion, there isn’t much to celebrate but here are a few for good measure:

Coming in at 24. Doug Flutie
Born: 1962
Height: 5’10”
Claims to fame: Uncorked “the Pass” to beat the evil Miami Hurricanes in 1984. Pro all-star in two different leagues—if you count the CFL.
The short story: Yeah, this ageless cult-favorite Patriots QB (still active at 43, he has his own rock band and once had his own cereal brand) would tower over a lot of guys on this list. But in a job where 6’2″ is considered borderline dwarfism, he’s become almost larger than life.

21. Ron Jeremy
Born: 1953
Height: 5’6″
Claim to fame: Hardest-working man in porn, claims a résumé about 5,000 women long!
The short story: Hirsute sex widget was a special ed teacher before a girlfriend sent his picture to Playgirl. The rest is wank-flick history. With 1,000-plus films beneath his belt, the Hedgehog is the most recognizable man in porn.
The extra inch(es): Half as wide as he is tall, but once he whips out his (at least) 10-inch costar, he transforms into a blindingly handsome leading man.

20. Kurt Cobain
1967–1994
Height: 5’7″
Claims to fame: Leader of Nirvana. Married Earth’s most obnoxious woman.
The short story: Even before the Goodwill threads, “rape me” pleas, and Courtney Love browbeatings, the tortured Nirvana frontman was hardly a tower of power. Channeling his trademark howl through a slight frame, Cobain seduced a generation of music fans—but accidentally paved the way for Limp Bizkit.
The extra inch: Short, weird, skinny guys weren’t too popular with the loggers and jocks in rural Washington State, but Cobain played up his shrimp status, hanging out with gay kids to antagonize meatheads.

19. Prince
Born: 1958
Height: 5’2″
Claims to fame: Only pop artist who can sing about female “self-service,” strut around in a purple suit half his life, and still be considered the Man.
The short story: Despite looking more like president of the Little Lord Fauntleroy Society than leader of the New Power Generation, the sex-funk witch doctor has tagged a slew of superfine honeys, including Kim Basinger and Carmen Electra. Turned Sheena Easton bad with “Sugar Walls.”
The extra inch: You’d dress in lingerie, too, if it meant you could rocket upward courtesy of six-inch platform shoes. Well, you would if you were this short and had the mojo to pull it off.


18. Bruce Lee
1940–1973
Height: 5’7″
Claim to fame: Passive-aggressive ass-kicker brought martial arts to the round-eye.
The short story: Beaten by street thugs at 14, “the Little Dragon” dedicated his life to the idea that one should “learn to endure or hire a bodyguard.” It was the last fight he ever lost. Destroyed everyone from Chuck Norris to hordes of attackers with bullet-fast backhands and menacing kitty noises.
The extra inch: How do you know you’re tough? When Steve McQueen and James Coburn are your pallbearers.

17. Jeff Gordon
Born: 1971
Height: 5’7″
Claim to fame: Cali golden boy showed NASCAR’s cracker power base how to win their own races.
The short story: No one makes left-hand turns for three hours better than the most-hated four-time champ in NASCAR history. Also credited with bringing the ultimate redneck sport out of Wal-Mart and into, well, Olive Garden.
The extra inch: El Gordo began racing go-carts on the teenage circuit at age nine, but proved so dominating he was forced out.

8. Jon Stewart
Born: 1962
Height: 5’7″ (counting the hair)
Claim to fame: Fake news godfather.
The short story: On Comedy Central’s The Daily Show, Stewart inspired an entire generation to shuck off its cynicism, overthrow the hypocrite Beltway power thieves, and…well, he hosted the only 2004 election coverage worth watching, anyway. Endeavors to point out that today’s mainstream media has the same news value as Cops.
The extra inch: The former Jon Leibowitz absorbed early career-killing moves, then rode his “Enhancement Smoker” role of Half Baked—“You ever see the back of a $20 bill…on weed? Oh, there’s some crazy crap, man.”—to iconic status.

2. Spud Webb
Born: 1963
Height: 5’7″
Claim to fame: Won the 1986 NBA Slam Dunk contest with a cannonball-like reverse ka-pow.
The short story: The dunk victory insured the jumpy superfreak short-set immortality and paved the way for NBA Smurfs like Muggsy Bogues and Earl “I Really am 5’5″, Honest!” Boykins.
The extra inch: His junior high school coach told him to sit in the stands at tryouts, but Spudster clawed his way to the NBA via junior college and the minor leagues.

Leading the pack – 1. Angus Young of ACDC
Born: 1955
Height: 5’2″
Claim to fame: Satan’s guitarist.
The short story: After dropping out of school at 15 and working for a porn mag, the self-taught (surprise!) master of two-chord blare managed not to choke on his own vomit, thereby becoming coauthor of “Hell’s Bells” (and virtually every other song by the real greatest rock band ever), rather than its unfortunate inspiration.
The extra inch: Along with the trademark schoolboy threads, Angus has kept his adolescent strut. “I’m sick to death of people saying we’ve made 12 albums that sound exactly the same,” he once said. “In fact, we’ve made 13 albums that sound exactly the same.”

The real question is; where is Tom Cruise in all of this?

Real Celebrity Heights (or not so much)

December 17, 2008

Ever wonder how tall your favorite celebrities are? We’ll be publishing more of these from time to time.

Tom Cruise 5′ 7 ”

Robin Williams 5′ 7 ”

Dustin Hoffman 5 ‘ 6 ”

Al Pacino 5′ 5 1/2 ”

Seth Green 5 ‘ 4 ”

Dudley Moore 5 ‘ 2 1/2 ”

Danny DeVito 5 ‘ 0 ”

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Drew Barrymore 5 ‘ 4 ”

Mena Suvari 5 ‘ 4 ”

Jodie Foster 5 ‘ 3 1/2 ”

Reese Witherspoon 5 ‘ 2 ”

Kristin Chenoweth 4 ‘ 11 ”

The Bald Truth About CEO’s

December 10, 2008

Follicly challenged CEO Steve Ballmer of Microsoft. The vast majority of executives in our unscientific survey said they would rather be bald than short.
By Kai-Uwe Knoth, AP
Follicly challenged CEO Steve Ballmer of Microsoft. The vast majority of executives in our unscientific survey said they would rather be bald than short.

By Del Jones, USA TODAY
CEOs seem to instinctively know that it’s better to be authoritative than indecisive. They know about the vision thing and the passion thing. They even know a few leadership lessons that aren’t taught in business school — such as, it helps to be tall.

But an unscientific survey of USA TODAY’s panel of CEOs and other evidence suggest that baldness might be a blind spot for many.

TELL US: If you had to change your hair or your height to make it to the top of the corporate ladder, which would you choose?

CEOs say being bald doesn’t impede success and, given a choice, it’s better to be bald than short. So widely held is this conventional wisdom among top executives that when asked to choose, most CEOs say they’d take 2 more inches of height over a full head of Robert Redford hair.

Even most bald CEOs, including many who are both tall and bald, would choose to be taller. “Lack of hair can only mean the brain is busy with more important functions,” says Murray Martin, the 5-foot-8 CEO of $5.7 billion Pitney Bowes, who is being generous when he describes his hair as “thinning.”
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“I don’t believe it ever (affected) my career. But as I progressed, it became less and less of an issue until it is now a point of pride and a personal branding advantage,” says Steve Carley, the 6-foot-1 bald CEO of El Pollo Loco. “It encourages approachability.”

As smart as they are, CEOs have been known as a group to get it wrong. It now appears that was the case just months ago when they almost universally said they didn’t see a recession looming. Could they also be collectively clueless about hair vs. height?

It’s not that being short is a career launching pad. Plenty of studies have found that taller men make more money, gain more success and attract more women. In his book Blink, Malcolm Gladwell says 30% of Fortune 500 CEOs are 6-foot-2 and taller — vs. just 4% of all men.

Bald men are a much bigger slice of the general population. The International Society of Hair Restoration Surgery estimates that 50% of Caucasian men older than 45 and 60% older than 60 have clinical balding. Stress can cause hair to fall out, so all things being equal, the percentage of bald leaders might be expected to be a little higher than average. Yet:

•If elected, John McCain would be the first bald U.S. president since Dwight Eisenhower. To be fair, baldness, unlike height, can be a matter of opinion. At 71, some might say McCain is doing OK in the hair department for his age group. But pictures of 42 presidents indicate that less than 25% were bald or balding, when statistically it should be at least half.

•There are 41 male state governors. Those who are bald or balding make up less than 20% and, yes, that includes the aptly named John Baldacci of Maine. The hair-loss club dropped a governor Wednesday when New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer announced he would resign after being linked as a client to a prostitution ring. He will be replaced by Lt. Gov. David Paterson, who is not bald. Only 10% to 20% of the 84 male U.S. senators are bald or balding.

•Among corporate CEOs, women run four of the largest 125 companies on the Fortune 500. USA TODAY examined photos of the men and considered about 25% to be bald or balding. Bald men running the nation’s largest companies include Chevron’s David O’Reilly, Home Depot’s Francis Blake, Morgan Stanley’s John Mack and Goldman Sachs’ Lloyd Blankfein.

•It may be more difficult to be bald and extremely rich. Warren Buffett, the richest man in the world, according to Forbes magazine, has lost hair in the past year but at 77 still retains a respectable amount. The richest American on the Forbes 400 list who is truly bald is No. 15 Steve Ballmer, CEO of Microsoft. The response of “no comment” was as much a male pattern among CEOs as was their hairline, and Microsoft was among the large corporations with bald or balding CEOs that did not respond to USA TODAY’s requests.

The 11 male U.S. billionaires ahead of Ballmer on the Forbes list have their own hair, or at least appear to. Hair transplants and toupees are still relatively uncommon. Sales of male wigs peaked in the 1970s, and New Hair Institute founder Dr. William Rassman says CEOs are probably no more likely to have rugs or plugs than all men of their age group.

Only 1% of 1,138 professionals making $100,000 or more who responded to an unscientific survey by TheLadders job website said they were bald and trying to cover it up; and just one hair transplant is performed on men for every five breast augmentations performed on women, according to the American Board of Plastic Surgery.

But the success rate of transplants has improved, and they cost less than $7,000 on average, $20,000 on the high end, no more than a one-way ride aboard a corporate jet. Rassman says he has performed hair-transplant surgery on more than 30 billionaires. He declined to identify them.

A 6-foot-6 man creates a commanding presence when he enters a meeting — a feat more difficult to achieve for someone inches shorter, says George Jones, the “follicly challenged” 5-foot-9 CEO of bookstore chain Borders Group. He oversees 34,000 employees and $4 billion in annual revenue.

USA TODAY surveyed its panel of CEOs, retired CEOs and leading executives. There was a lower response rate than for surveys on other topics, but 95% of the 74 who responded said, if given a choice, they would rather be bald than short. More telling is that the 31 CEOs who identified themselves as bald or “headed in that direction” in the unscientific survey were unanimous in saying that being vertically challenged is more detrimental to an aspiring executive’s career.

USA TODAY asked TheLadders to follow up with a survey. The job-search site for high-income professionals got 1,138 responses. Half said they still had as much hair as they did when teens, while 15% said they were bald, and 35% said they were headed in that direction. Among all respondents to the unscientific survey, 67% said 2 inches more in height would be better for career success, vs. 33% who said a full head of hair.

Those results mirrored another unscientific survey taken at USA TODAY’s request by Vistage International, an organization of CEOs. Vistage asked its membership: “If appearances count, what aspect is most helpful in advancing a person’s career?” Of the 219 responding, 66% said taller is better; 34% chose hair.

“I think they are in denial,” Rassman says. He says bald men of power have confessed to him that even they discriminate against other bald men.

Baby-face bias

Academia has largely ignored the impact of balding on success, but Yale University psychology professor Leslie Zebrowitz has written extensively about how people with round faces and other traits that resemble babies are perceived to be more immature in the workplace and in the courtroom by juries and judges.

Zebrowitz says she knows of no research that has tried to determine whether bald men are more likely to have baby faces than men with hair. But if bald men do look more babyish, “Then that could account for their under-representation among CEOs,” she says.

Nicholas Rule, who wrote the paper “The Face of Success,” published in February’s issue of Psychological Science, says bald men may be more likely to be victims of the “baby-face bias” described by Zebrowitz. In his study, Rule had Tufts University students look at photos of CEOs and offer their gut reactions about their leadership capabilities. At USA TODAY’s request, Rule examined the data and found that the photos of bald CEOs were considered by the students to be warmer but less powerful than CEOs with hair.

“A great smile is much better” than hair or height, says Howard Behar, the 5-foot-10 and bald former president of Starbucks North America. “I mean, look at Mitt Romney. Lots of hair. Tall and good-looking. Sure didn’t help him. Compare him to the Dalai Lama: short, no hair and not exactly a looker. Just call me the Dalai Behar.”

Some say that worse than bald is trying to cover it up with a “comb-over” that uses remaining hair to cover the exposed scalp. “Like most CEOs, I’m cognizant of my appearance,” says Bob Kodner, CEO of The Crack Team franchiser that fixes leaking basement cracks. Five years ago, Kodner saw his cranium in an elevator mirror and thought someone had “thrown a piece of baloney on my head.” Ever since, he’s been shaving his head once a week. His advice: Don’t “prolong the inevitable.”

Craigslist founder and Chairman Craig Newmark is bald and “almost” 5-foot-7. Company CEO Jim Buckmaster is a foot taller and rich in hair.

“The general Net community does regard me as eye candy, a la George Costanza” from Seinfeld, Newmark says, but he adds that neither bald nor short is a good thing in corporate life. When pressed to make a choice, Newmark says, “I’d prefer to be a few inches taller.”

Natural Height? Stretch it out!

December 9, 2008

This video shows you simple exercises that will help you naturally increase your height by standing up straighter! Another safe and effective way to grow taller.

Does height equal power?

November 18, 2008

According to Del Jones of USA Today some CEO’s say yes it does.

Le Gourmet Gift Basket CEO Cynthia McKay wears 3-inch heels even though she’s 5-foot-9 in bare feet.

Why? For the same reason that 6-foot-3 Don Peebles, CEO of The Peebles Corporation, the nation’s largest African-American-owned real estate development company, puts his hand on the shoulder of shorter adversaries and crowds into their personal space when negotiating a key deal.

TELL US: What acts of power and dominance have you seen in your workplace?

It’s to gain a “subliminal sense of power,” Peebles says.

People of status often use height, or an inflated appearance of height, to look more powerful, says Lara Tiedens, an organizational behavior professor at the Stanford University Graduate School of Business, who has written extensively about how executives acquire status. They look directly at others, use an open stance and vigorous gestures, speak loudly in a deep voice, interrupt at will, and lean in close or otherwise reduce the space of others and expand their own. What does all that audacity get them? Others see them as smarter, more competent and deserving of all their promotions, Tiedens says.

Tiedens says her findings and recommendations to become taller, louder and borderline rude have been called evil, but says she’s only the messenger calling attention to the age-old pecking order of humans, which is also common throughout the animal kingdom, from the arcing tail of the scorpion to the chest-beating chimp.

“It’s an evolution from the days of primates,” says Yaron Adler, CEO of IncrediMail, an Israeli company where executive meetings often turn into shouting matches that remind Adler of Britain’s Parliament.

Tiedens says women are often irritated by chest-beating behavior but should learn from it. So should minorities, the young, the shy and others who feel their ideas get short-changed on the merits, she says, because meeting rooms are dominated by white, male, chest-beating power brokers.

Peebles, for one, says he has a “radio” voice and employs it to command attention. McKay makes sure the ring tone on her phone is sophisticated, never “frilly.” She schedules meetings on her turf, where her office walls are covered in diplomas and accolades, and she drops into conversations that she is a lawyer as well as a CEO before pursuing important negotiations.

Many white, male CEOs say they are not pleased to be lumped together with rutting elk and other beasts gone wild. In interviews, they say that chest beating may have been a staple of corporate leadership in the past but that executives can no longer get away with aping Tarzan.

The ‘domination thing’

Retired CEOs Renny DiPentima of SRA International, James Copeland of Deloitte & Touche and Bill George of Medtronic, call such studies borderline drivel and say the last thing a busy CEO has time for is to plot to gain an upper hand.

“Today’s workers, vendors and customers are simply far too smart to fall for some kind of domination thing,” says Vern Raburn, CEO of jetmaker Eclipse Aviation.

Raburn worked under Bill Gates during Microsoft’s early days and says the world’s second-richest man is of slight build and incapable of resorting to chest beating, although Microsoft executives did play intellectual games of “who’s smartest, who can think fastest.”

Some successful women also say chest beating is rare and a waste of time. “Sounds like something a professor or consultant would think of,” says Andrea McGinty, founder of online dating site It’s Just Lunch and online retailer Baby Dagny.

Height, voice quality, stance … (are) not going to cut it without the substance,” says Linda Sawyer, CEO of Deutsch advertising agency. “Survival of the fittest has become survival of the brightest.”

But Karyl Innis, CEO of executive coaching firm The Innis Company, says corporate chest beating is widespread. She says CEOs who don’t spot it are like “fish who don’t see the water.”

“Is this a lot of bunk? Absolutely not,” says Jill Blashack Strahan, founder and CEO of Tastefully Simple, which sells food at in-house parties. “Arrogance and superficiality is nauseatingly prevalent. Chest beating is alive and well. It’s a jungle out there.”

If it’s a jungle, women are at a disadvantage because they have higher voices and usually stand and sit in a more constricted manner, Innis says. In the jungle, being considerate is a weakness. When someone walks into a crowded meeting room, even the most senior women have a tendency to make room at the table. That’s a mistake, she says: Those of power take up more than their fair share of space. Don’t relinquish it. Spread out, arms wide on the table.

Tiedens says studies of gender and influence indicate that women invite backlash when they try to be verbally dominant. But there seems to be greater acceptance when displays of female dominance are non-verbal. She says that wearing heels makes sense, although she is unaware of any high-heel research outside the realm of podiatry.

Innis, 5-foot-4½, remembers when she was director of staffing and recruiting at Motorola several years ago. Staffer Glenn Gienko was 6-foot-4. After one long day, Gienko did a double take when Innis took off her heels to relax. “He lifted out his arm, and the top of my head didn’t reach his palm. He said he had no idea I was so short. He thought I was bigger because I was his boss. I took up more space in his life. I’m very conscious about being bigger,” Innis says. “Shoulders square and back, head up.”

Maigread Eichten, the 5-foot-4 CEO of beverage company New Sun Nutrition, says she remembers a confrontation with a 6-foot, 200-pound-plus senior executive.

“He spoke loudly and in quite colorful language. I couldn’t get a word in between his four-letter words. Imagine his surprise when this small blonde marched up, stared him down, commanded his attention, spoke clearly and loudly and ended with a smile. He was sold and charmed,” Eichten says.

Even so, Eichten isn’t convinced that heels and other efforts of dominance are effective. She jokes that she guards her personal space only to protect her salad at lunch, and the only time others comment on her size is when she introduces them to her 14-year-old son.

Tiedens’ research has centered on women, and she says she was less qualified to say if the same tactics of dominance work for minority executives. Alfred Edmond, the 5-foot-7 editor-in-chief of Black Enterprise magazine, says they do work and advises young minorities not to disappear at meetings. His own promotions started coming after he took up body building as a hobby and went from 130 pounds to 175. He says he uses his baritone voice when he wants his way. Those with a deep voice are perceived to be larger, not only on the phone, but in person, Edmond says.

Height literally pays off

Several studies indicate that taller men are more likely to be successful and that the advantage begins early. A 2005 study in Finland found that baby boys who were taller than average by their first birthday earned more 50 years later. The last U.S. president who was shorter than the average man was 5-foot-7 William McKinley 106 years ago.

Corporate CEOs also tend to be taller, and those who aren’t taller have a way of appearing so. Retired General Electric CEO Jack Welch, at 5-foot-7, makes searing eye contact and will pull his chair around to sit close in one-on-one conversations. Harold Burson, chairman and architect of the largest public relations firm, Burson-Marsteller, says he is 5-foot-6, “probably a little less now that I’m 86.” He says his theory is that short CEOs rise from within the company. Executive search firms tend to produce the 6-foot outsiders, he says.

There may be some evolution in the jungle. Some CEOs say they recognize the importance of chest beating but have learned to use it in moderation. When Adler oversees contentious meetings, he tries to remain calm and centered. Likewise, Edmond says he resorts to dominant behavior “thoughtfully and sparingly, like corporal punishment in child rearing.”

Peebles says he used to assume that the loudest, most aggressive male at the meeting was “the guy in charge,” until he learned that’s not usually the case. “If you have authority, you ought to use it less,” he says.

Tiedens says it makes sense that wise CEOs are evolving to turn chest beating over to wannabe lieutenants, because research indicates that leaders who are dominant wind up with submissive employees, while those who step back empower those around them.

But dominant personalities, at least among those on the path to power, will long be with us, Tiedens says, even though chest beaters are perceived as less nice, likable and warm. Those gunning for leadership positions sacrifice popularity, Tiedens says. Edmond has advised his children to be both sure and right, but that it’s most important to be sure.

“If you are absolutely correct, but seem unsure, you’ll hardly be able to influence anyone, much less dominate them,” Edmond says. At least once a week, he says, his wife calls him a stubborn dictator.

Edmond and other executives interviewed said they recognized that chest beating can be taken to an extreme and they worried that not only is there a fine line between confidence and dominance, there’s also a fine line between dominance and schoolyard bully.

Leaders by definition are confident, and many can successfully negotiate dominance. But some cross over to become like hotel titan Leona Helmsley, nicknamed the queen of mean. Eleven states are in various stages of passing legislation that would give the victims of workplace bullying the right to sue for damages, according to The National Law Journal.

But if bullying is bad for business, the opposite could be, too. “If someone can’t look me in the eye when they make a statement, or are passive, I downplay their credibility,” says Steve Hafner, CEO of travel website Kayak.com.

Says Strahan: “When we avert our eyes, or cower, or speak in meek, whispery tones, we don’t instill feelings of trust and safety.”

McKay is never accused of being meek or in a cower. She wears heels even though she finds it ridiculous that 3 inches could add to anyone’s credibility.

“It is a lot of bunk,” she says. “But it works.”